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Book Tour: “Life From Scratch”

Welcome!  I am honored and thrilled to be part of Lavender Luz’s book tour for “Life From Scratch”.  Melissa Ford, the popular infertility blogger, has written her very own bestselling novel: according to Amazon.com, it is currently #139 on the Kindle list.  Congrats Mel!

Buy the book, everyone. It’s a fantastic read and so much fun!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

“Life From Scratch” is a book about finding yourself.  I loved the idea that someone could use a hobby or personal interest to reshape their life and connect with the core values most important to them.  Of particular interest to me is that Rachel uses a blog to record her journey, using her culinary lessons as a metaphor for her own voyage to independence.

I am trying to use a blog to chart my own voyage to a life full of more joy and happiness (spoiler: with mixed results), so I related to Rachel’s story.  Through reading about different philosophies, I hope to connect (or re-connect) to the values most important to me, hopefully discovering and defining what brings me joy.  I am learning that, for me, seeking joy is not easy.  In fact, it’s hard, hard work.  I think Rachel discovers her inner joy by digging into a task that seems daunting at first, then gains confidence through the tough yet fun endeavor of learning to cook for herself.  Her story gives me inspiration.

Here are the discussion topics I chose to answer:

1. One of the topics explored in the book is the workaholic culture in Manhattan, and the ultimate choice of sacrificing that culture for more free time (and less money) to spend with your husband or wife.  Do you agree with Rachel that leading a comfortable, luxurious life (with lots of take-out) and very little quality time with your spouse is less preferable than a life with more emotional connection (and food made from scratch), and presumably more economic hardships?  Does it have to be an either or situation, or is there an in-between?

This is one of my questions, and I have been thinking hard about this topic as part of “living joyfully”.  Rachel’s used to a pretty posh life of take-out food and nice apartments, financed by her absent husband’s punishing career.  She rejects this lifestyle to live a more frugal, meaningful life with, presumably, a strong emotional connection to an eventual partner.  It’s a fairytale choice: love or money.

I’m finding this choice more complicated in real life. Just the act of living our life is expensive.  To finance our pretty barebones existence (heavily budgeted with no take-out food, boo), my husband works really long hours and travels a lot.  I’m a SAHM, not particularly by choice, but because my career features crazy hours with not enough pay to cover basic childcare costs for our twins.

Not seeing my husband very often sucks. It helps to remember that he’s not working this hard to pay for Porsches, ponies and pearls, but just to pay the bills.  I think this scenario is pretty common among many middle class families.  It’s sad that many people don’t have the fairytale choice to reject a workaholic culture.

2. Arianna is a character not seen much in fiction: a single mom by choice who had trouble conceiving, and used IVF.  Do you think her infertility struggles and single parenthood affect the choices that Rachel ultimately makes in her life?

I’m pretty sure that everyone in the book club LOVED the Arianna character.  Arianna is the first realistic portrayal of an infertile woman I’ve come across in fiction.  Her struggles to get pregnant are correctly and poignantly described.  Hooray!  I hope the book gets made into a movie, so the public can GET WITH IT.

To be fair, how would the public know better?  Here’s what I learned about infertility from “Friends”:

  • When you act as a surrogate for someone, you’ll have a completely normal and full-term pregnancy with TRIPLETS, delivering them all vaginally.
  • If you are infertile, you’ll be diagnosed within one month, immediately move on to adoption and be quickly matched with a woman who is unaware she’s having twins.  (The discovery of those twins, during delivery, will be a shock to everyone, including the doctor.)

I like how Rachel admires Arianna’s choice to be a single mom and realizes that getting pregnant when she’s ready may prove to be difficult.  Hopefully, lots of readers will learn the same lesson and have a bit more empathy for those who battle infertility.  One can dream, right?

3. If you had to take up a hobby after a life changing event, what would it be? Have you ever wanted to just try something new?

Great question.  Cooking is something I’ve dabbled in from time to time, but when it comes down to it, I’m afraid I’m a take-out kind of girl.  But the one hobby I’ve always wanted to try is writing, and after I experienced my second miscarriage I decided to pursue this blog.  Real original, I know 😉  It’s been life-changing to “meet” the ALI community, and it has been rewarding to put into words my point of view.  I once asked Elizabeth George at a book signing what she recommended an aspiring writer do. She replied, “Write!” And so, I try.

To continue to the next leg of this book tour, please visit the main list at Write Mind Open Heart.

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