Monthly Archives: April 2013

How to Dress: Summer Vacation Fashion

I’m in the process of switching our closets to summer clothes here. It’s HOT.

This year, I’m inspired by prints, greens, lace, blues and hats! Here’s my inspiration board. Yes, I’m a Pinterest dweeb.

I decided to look at the photos from our Mexican vacation to try to figure out the clothes we used the most.

Here’s what worked in the hot weather in Mexico.

1. DO: Maxi Dresses. I had never worn one of these before, but it was perfect for the humidity and staying comfortable. Plus you can dress it up with a cardigan or shrug.


Dress: Vince Camuto. Boy’s shirt: Old Navy. Girl’s Dress: Janie & Jack. Man’s shirt: Banana Republic.

2. DO: Cover the Hell Up. I’m one of those who wears SPF 100, a hat and an SPF shirt when in the sun. My skin is very, very fair. I’m just as paranoid about the twins.


Shirt: Bought for our safari in London. Hat: Hat store in Laguna Beach. Bathing suit: Target. Girl’s bathing suit top and bottom: Land’s End. Girl’s hat: Janie & Jack.

3. Do: Fun Hats. Hats are crucial summer fashion accessories around here. Dress: Old Navy. Hat: Hat store in Laguna Beach. Girl’s straw hat: Gift from MiL. Dress: Old Navy. Boy’s cubano hat: Old Navy. Shirt: Gap. Man’s shirt: Banana Republic.


4. DO: DIY Tye Dye!


5. DO: Keep your hair out of your face.


DON’T: Stay up past 8 PM.


Have you started to switch out your closet with summer clothes? What do you like to wear in the summer?


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London Fashion


Marni storefront, London

First of all, thank you all so much for your well wishes when I was so ill in Berlin. I was literally crying alone in my horrible little hostel room with a fever and the chills and then I heard the ping of messages received and so many of you reassured me that my issues weren’t silly. Thank you. It felt good that I wasn’t alone even though I felt so geographically isolated.

I felt horrible during the entirety of my stay in Berlin. I felt terrible during my flight to London. But something about the familiarity of London provided a feeling of peace and energy and creativity. It always has. It’s the place that feels more like home than even where I live and was born.

I love wandering the streets of Chelsea and Battersea and Knightsbridge and imagining my favorite authors and characters within the confines of such. Around the corner was where Sherlock Holmes chased some nefarious villan, or where Mr. Darcy hunted down Wickham and made him marry Lydia. Or passing Charing Cross Road, I get a chill of excitement that Harry followed Hagrid and entered the magical world of wizards and witches nearby. Supposedly.

What I wore walking around:


Black peacoat: Gap, super old. Scarf: street vendor, Paris. Striped shirt: Old Navy. Mint cords: Old Navy. Bag: Prada.

But I also like to observe the real and present among the same streets. Usually, I like to observe what people are wearing. I remember in 2003 I noticed that many people were wearing ballet flats and skinny jeans. Two years later, those both became ubiquitous in the U.S. This time I noticed that the fashions were remarkably similar to what’s going on here: chambray shirts, stripes, top knots, red lipstick, oxfords, brogues. I was pretty disappointed.

The upside of this was the clothes I brought were actually somewhat on trend, which was a relief because I actually got to attend some glamorous affairs. My favorite thing, ever. It was overly exciting for me 🙂

Right now there is an exhibit in London at the V&A that all of my friends recommended I see: “David Bowie is” which lived up to the hype. First of all, I wasn’t a huge fan of his, and was surprised how many great songs he has. (I didn’t know “Heroes” or “Under Pressure” was his work.) He is a huge influence on Radiohead (my favorite band ever), Lady Gaga, Tilda Swinton (SWINTON!) and Muse. The neatest part of the exhibit was demonstrations of how he engages in the creative process. For example, he employed a guy in Silicon Valley to create a program which amalgamates news headlines into phrases he can then use as prompts to write songs. Cool stuff. He also has wide-ranging intellectual influences like Brecht, the Weimar Republic, the dawning of the space age and NASA.

The exhibit made a big deal about this performance of David Bowie in 1972, for “Starman”: it supposedly blew people’s minds with its weird costumes, personas and androgynous style. Honestly, it seems pretty tame to me, but, whatever.

Anyway, I recommend checking it out for those nearby or visiting. Here’s what I wore:


Dress: Old Navy. Cropped jean jacket: Target. Necklace: Banana Republic. Flats: Old Navy. Purse: Prada.

Later that night I went to two (TWO!) gallery openings. I was extremely nervous because I was going to be around my friend’s very glamorous crowd. I decided to take a risk and wear my jumpsuit. Jumpsuits have a bad reputation, but I felt pretty good in it. Sort of 70s, sort of Bowie.


Stars and moons jumpsuit: Anthropologie. Necklace: Banana Republic.

The super glamorous crowd (in there, somewhere is Graham Norton):


I also broke down and bought the twins some Burberry at Harrods. I know, such a cliche. My daughter was horrified at the colors: “Mommy, brown? REALLY?! Coco would NEVER.”

Well, I always knew she was a fashionista…

Are there any cities or places that make you feel more at home than even where you live?


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So, This Happened…

– I flew 12+ hours to Germany
– A little girl (not mine) threw up on me on the plane
– The airline lost my luggage
– I had to wear the barf clothes to a professional meeting
– I started to feel ill
– After 2 1/2 days of meetings I came down with bad chills/fever
– I stayed in my room instead of touring the city because I felt so ill
– The hotel (hostel really) is filled with partying 18 year olds on Spring Break who blare music and slam doors.
– I don’t speak German
– There’s no room service, so I have to drag my sick behind to a convenience shop blocks away to get food and water.

First world problems. I know.

To quote the Beach Boys, “I wanna go home.”


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Take THAT, Mainstream Media!


Have you read Mel’s takedown of The New York Times and their obit of the late, great Dr. Edwards? It’s pretty bad-ass.

The Grey Lady’s coverage of all things infertility is strangely skewed, as we know.

The good news? We don’t have to take it anymore.

Recently, there has been a very welcome influx of books and articles doing their best to demystify infertility and adoption.


Lori’s book, called The Open-Hearted Way to Open Adoption. came out last week. I’ll be participating in a book tour later this month but here’s a quick preview: this book deserves to be a classic in the parenting genre. Pragmatic and philosophical, it’s a roadmap and a how-to guide in one great book.

Leah’s book Single Infertile Female: Adventures in Love, Life, and Infertility came out this week. I will be reading on the plane to Berlin this week. Here’s the description:

“First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes a baby in the baby carriage.” That’s how the story goes, right? We all grow up hearing the same fairy tales, and imagining the same futures. But what happens when the future you have always pictured for yourself is ripped away before you ever even get the chance to pursue it?

Pretty gripping right? Leah’s book has been burning up the Amazon charts, and I can’t wait to read it.

In the works: Kathy mentioned on my Too Many Fish to Fry Facebook page that she is working on a memoir about her experience with neonatal loss and secondary infertility. This is much-needed because there is so little out there for those going through secondary infertility. (See the discussion on my FB page for the unique challenges facing those going through secondary infertility over there…)

Non-Infertility Books by Infertility Writers:

Measure of Love, from Melissa Ford. I’m also going to be reading this on the plane to Berlin. I loved her first book Life From Scratch (think Jane Austen for the 21st Century) and this is its sequel.

Minotaur, from April Cross. April just published this book, the first in a proposed series featuring heroine Pricilla Sharp. It sounds intriguing.


Did y’all know Keiko is now writing for Disney Baby? She’s been writing about women who have gone through infertility, too, like The Maybe Babies, whose baby was just born after years of heartbreak. Keiko + Disney = a huge win for us.

The Ricki Lake Show blog featured this post by David Vienna about dealing with infertility, which was touching and moving.

And the Boston Globe had a much more fitting obit for Dr. Edwards.


Kymberli has launched a new site called JUMP! 1000+ Reasons to be Happy! just in time for National Infertility Awareness Week. In fact, my son is one of the “jumpers” featured. I tell the story of how a Slip ‘N Slide created joy for both my son and myself and helped heal my heart after my battle with infertility. There’s lots more stories there too and it’s a really cool project.

And speaking of healing, PAIL just hosted a “Healing Week” which addresses how those parenting after infertility deal with the scars of the past.

Pamela and Keiko participated in a RESOLVE New England project called “A Conversation on Life Beyond” children, which tackled life childfree/childless after infertility.

I’m sure this is just the tip of the iceberg: please feel free to add anything I have missed below, and I’ll be happy to add it to this list.


Filed under Infertility, Parenting After IF

The I Ching of Jerry Maguire

“In the quest for the big dollars, a lot of the little things were going wrong.”

Tom Cruise, Jerry Maguire

Whenever I need answers in life, I go to “the well.” (Thanks to Lori and her outstanding book for introducing me to that term.) What’s my well? The movie Jerry Maguire.

I loved the difference of opinion, the debate around sports provoked by the last post. There is no topic I have written about that has drawn more passion, I don’t think.

Darcy (who never reads my blog) made an exception for this post. He LOVED what you all said. He wishes we could gather all together for a roundtable to discuss this in person, possibly over nachos and beer.

The commentary provoked me to return to the well, which in this case is the opening scene of Jerry Maguire which so, so NAILS both the joy and downside of sports. Remarkably, most of what is said in this much more brief opening than I remembered (ONLY 4 minutes!!) is still true today, and the foreshadowing of the research to come about how disfiguring concussions are later in life is seen in the hockey player story.

Hockey player’s son, concerned:

“Mr. Maguire, this is his fourth concussion this year. Shouldn’t SOMEBODY get him to stop?”

Tom Cruise, blase, answering someone on his phone, not paying attention:

“Hey, hey, hey: it would take a TANK to stop your Dad. It would take all five super trooper VR warrior tanks to stop your Dad. Wouldn’t it? Right? Right?”


“Fuck you.”

Voiceover: “Who had I become? Just another shark in a suit?”


Another blogger (Mo?) once quoted Jerry Maguire throughout a post.

For me, the movie honestly provides advice for almost any situation.

Getting a big head? Here’s my favorite takedown EVER for someone who is bragging.

Cuba Gooding, Jr.:

“Jerry Rice, Andre Reed, Chris Carter — I smoke all these fools!”

Unimpressed uncredited extra:

“Yeah, yeah, yeah.”

We say “Yeah, yeah, yeah” a lot around here.

If someone is wallowing in self-pity:

Tom Cruise:

“I’m finished, I’m fucked. Twenty-four hours ago, man, I was hot! Now… I’m a cautionary tale. You see this jacket I’m wearing, you like it? Because I don’t really need it. Because I’m cloaked in failure! I lost the number one draft picked the night before the draft! Why? Let’s recap: Because a hockey player’s kid made me feel like a superficial jerk. I ate two slices of bad pizza, went to bed and grew a conscience!”

Cuba Gooding Jr.:

“Well, Boo-fucking-hoo.”

There’s a lot of “Well, Boo-fucking-hoo” around here.

When inspiration is needed…

Random guy at copy place:

“That’s how you become great, man. Hang your balls out there!”

When life sucks…

Tom Cruise:

“The fuckin zoo is closed, Ray.”

The best, ultimate advice for life…

Tom Cruise’s early mentor:

“Hey, I don’t have all the answers. In life, to be honest, I failed as much as I have succeeded. But I love my wife. I love my life. And I wish you my kind of success.”

Are there movies that you go to, time and again, to provide guidance and reassurance?


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