“House-less by Choice”
I first stumbled upon a subculture I was unaware of after an article was brought to my attention. Offbeat Mama had interviewed a couple, Kayla and “Checkers,” about their unconventional lifestyle. Here was Kayla’s explanation of their living situation:
“Homeless seems more like not having a home and house-less is not having just one designated house over your head at all times. I prefer house-less because I indeed have a home whether it be in the woods, in a house, in an RV, in a car, in any state or country, anywhere. My home is Checkers and Sunny — we don’t need a house to have a home.”
Sunny (or Sunshine Rae) is Kayla’s daughter, she’s now a one year old and she too is “house-less.” Soon after having Sunny, Kayla became pregnant again: the “houseless by choice” trio would soon be a foursome. Then, according to Kayla’s since deleted blog, Sunshine was removed from “Checkers” and Kayla’s care and placed with CPS. At this point, Kayla’s Tumblr account got quite vague but it appears Sunny is back in the care of Kayla and “Checkers.”
Everything changed with a recent entry:
“On June 25th your aunt Karlee had surprise twin boys; Kyle Fly and Miles Trust. They were 6 weeks early so they were very tiny and under a lot of stress. They were both doing pretty good, but Kyle was barely hanging in there. He passed away last night at 4:09am. You woke up last night crying around the same time he passed and it made me wonder if maybe somehow you knew something was wrong. Even though you only have 1 little boy cousin physically here, you will always have 2 little boy cousins. I know that you won’t understand any of this until you are older but I thought I would still write it down so that you could one day look back and read about little Kyle and how he was a precious being too special for this world.”
“They Ride the Trains”
So Kayla has a sister, Karlee, who followed in her sister’s tracks, so to speak, as a “houseless” traveler. She hooked up with a boyfriend, whose name is “Bam.” Karlee and Bam had a daughter at about the same time as Sunny’s birth, but reliquished her to Kayla and Karlee’s father. Kayla mentioned in the Offbeat Mama article that Karlee and Bam “ride the trains.”
Soon, though, Karlee fell pregnant again. She announced it, as you do, on Facebook.
“Chillin wit my love watchin sum boobtube. Baby number 2 excited. January 15″
The next update involves “Checkers,” ham, and most ominously, cigarettes.
“chillin wit the family n my love. cant wait to eat this Ham checkers is cookin. cigg. time. [[inlove w/ Bam,Kizzie,&the unborn]]♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ January 25″
There was talk on Facebook by Karlee about traveling in Indiana, living on a boat, chilling in a squat with a “pet rat” (I am NOT making this UP, guys!), stopping in Lexington, Ohio and also, stays in unspecified woods. And “waitin’ on a train:”
“Waitin on a train. God we have such a gorgeous lil girl. iloveBam. May 11″
So you remember hobos during the depression hitching trains? That way of traveling still exists.
July 1st, she announced that one of the (surprise) twins has passed away.
Resting up in this hotel with my lover Bam. Glad i got my pain med. Filled i was hurtin 2 badly. Pickin up kyles ash’s tomorrow cant wait 2 get them on necklesses
THE HELL?!? All four parties are very young. (Karlee appears to be in her late teens, Kayla in her early twenties.)
I Just Can’t!
Somehow, this whole MESS disturbs me greatly. The twin passing away made me cry. Obviously, it feels completely unfair (because I know about the millions of infertile women who want children so badly and would be such wonderful mothers) to watch these young girls produce five children in less than two years. One was in foster care, one has passed away, one is in the NICU, one is in the full-time care of her grandfather and one is yet to be born.
AND WHO HAS SURPRISE TWINS?! In this day and age?
This is what I’m thinking about when I hear “Everything happens for a reason.” Really? It does?
I don’t think so.